Waiting Your Turn

The other day we went to the Immigration Office to pick up my husband’s permesso di soggiorno. Usually there are some people waiting, between half a dozen and twenty maybe. This time there were probably 200 plus all crowded into this room on a hot summer day with no apparent organization– nowhere to register, no appointments, […]

It’s Not the Decision That’s Tough, It’s the Aftermath.

In my last post I asked what kinds of decisions were the toughest for you to make. Big thanks to those of you who responded to my request. I received very useful feedback. I thought I was going to help people who found decision-making difficult, with an if-this-then-that kind of tree, or with explanations about urgency […]

What If You’re Wrong About Being Wrong?

Do you automatically assume that if someone does something differently, that you’re doing it wrong? When I arrive somewhere early and no one else is there yet I think, “Did I get the day right? Is this where we’re supposed to meet?” I’m always more comfortable when someone else shows up. It reassures me I’m in […]

An Antidote To Self Pity

I got bad news this morning. I missed an opportunity because someone hadn’t heard from me and went with another person.

But I had responded immediately! The email did not arrive (or she missed it).

I had done everything right.
It’s not fair.
It’s not my fault.

To Do or Not To Do

Start that clock. The passage of time doesn’t bother me, for I am a time management genius and I’m going to tell you how to get things done. Malcolm Gladwell, author of Outliers, says that it takes 10,000 hours of dedicated practice to master a skill. I’ve easily spent that and more exploring time management […]